These so-called flexisexuals say that although they are not gay or even bisexual, they enjoy flirting and kissing girls -- but they still enjoy having sex with men. One female senior at Hofstra University in New York said she is apt to turn to women when she's had too much to drink. The student, who declined to give her name for fear a future employer might Google her sexual escapades, is one of many young women who are more flexible in their attitudes about sex. Experts say they may be influenced by the growing visibility of same-sex couples and more open attitudes about sex in general. Pop culture, itself, seems to celebrate that flexibility in songs like Katie Perry's, "I Kissed a Girl [and I Liked It]," a song that year-old Alisha Garrison said "made girls be more free to do whatever they want. Flexisexual is also known as heteroflexible, pansexual or queer, all subtle variations that mean they are not closing any doors. Women say it has has more to do with their view of the world than their practice in the bedroom.
My First Time Kissing Women
Time and time again, the Internet has churned out chauvinist "best girl-on-girl kiss" listicles, written by men, for men. The film industry has a shoddy record in portraying queer female romances or sex scenes, mostly due to "the male gaze. Which brings me back to queer kiss scenes: Although more female directors are being given opportunities to thrive, male-directed lesbian scenes are commonplace—and unfortunately, are oftentimes voyeuristic and exploitative. Take, for example, the film Wild Things ; Denise Richards and Neve Campbell makeout in a pool while a creepy man watches from the woods with a camcorder. Luckily for us queer girls, not all girl-on-girl movie kisses are bad. Some of them are even fantastic, sensual, and passionate.
Studies Say Women are More Fluid in Their Sexuality
My girlfriend has sex with me but does not like to kiss. What do you make of this? A: There are two likely possibilities here. One is physical and one is psychological. I am not referring just to horrid, putrid, dragon breath or never brushing your teeth, but also about an odor detectable only up close. Olfaction — basically, the sense of smell — is a major component of sex and attraction. The way someone smells can be a huge turn-on or turn-off. In fact, people who have lost their sense of smell often lose sexual desire. That smell chemistry is very important.
The meeting of lips may feel harmonious, but it isn't. Men are always pushing to make kisses sloppier, while women always want to keep at them long after the show's over. And kissing style isn't the only point of contrast: In light of recent findings by psychologists, a kiss shared between a man and a woman seems more like a clash of spirits than a meeting of souls. Those statements may strike some as obvious and others as old-fashioned, but regardless, they're scientifically proven. Hughes and her colleagues published a study in the journal Evolutionary Psychology three years ago that helped test, and prove, several theories evolutionary psychologists have long held about kissing. The researchers probed the kissing preferences and opinions of more than 1, males and females in their sexual prime — college undergraduates — who were asked to mark their answers to a series of detailed kissing questions on a 5-point scale. The results showed that both men and women consider kissing an important and highly intimate interaction. Both sexes use kissing to gauge the relationship compatibility of themselves and their partners.